25 Ratings with 20 Comments
Dr. Berman is a "friend of the court", meaning his role is to intentionally perpetuate conflict and drag out the process, all while you are incurring mounting out of pocket costs. He does NOT work in the best interests of children NOR does he follow a standard of practice based on facts. Instead he opts for discretionary abuse for financial gain.
Berman is a total charlatan. Likes to play God. If your lawyer recommends him, fire your lawyer. If you get an adverse report from Berman, litigate it. It’s just frightening that any court could give credence to what he says.
After a long and extensive process of custody evaluations and therapy sessions, Dr. Berman told me and my siblings (ages 16, 13, 13, 10 at the time) that we'd have major psychological issues growing up and as adults, as we chose to not have the most extensive relationship with our father. Just took our money and left. Didn't settle any dispute. Would never recommend. This man simply is not a nice guy. He just prolonged and promoted arguments between my siblings and my father. Could've saved plenty of money and time on both sides. I am now 20 and have a good relationship with both of my parents, not citing the help of Dr. Berman, but another therapist.
Google “Making Divorce Pay” by Michael Volpe. Berman is a very influential member of the Maryland AFCC and to add to another post below, yes, this org (read cartel) gets family court attorneys appointed to the bench. They’re very careful to not be overtly corrupt or misogynistic, but it’s definitely not the child’s best interest that complicit judges, attorneys, social workers and “experts” like Berman, serve. The fact that they’re never held accountable and there’s no oversight is a huge red flag and tells you just how deep the racket runs.
What Dr. Berman is doing is horrible. We need to unit. I am seeking other victims on Paul C Berman. Please contact me at S t o p P a u l B e r m a n @ p r o t o n m a i l . c o m
Read all reviews! Ditto!!!!
If your attorney recommends Berman or wants you to agree to the other side’s demand to get Berman involved, get a new attorney. Berman is part of a group of hired guns experts who side with the abusive or disordered parent, which prolongs the case for the financial benefit of all the professionals involved. They make parents pay a fortune for reports that are poorly written and without basis and take months to complete to drag things out. If you can, make sure you’re seeing a psychiatrist (MD) who isn’t involved in family court and who can refute the false assessments of these family court psychologists and LCSWs. Better yet, just say no and get rid of the attorney trying to get you to agree because that attorney is part of the racket. It’s fraud and criminal collusion. We need accountability and oversight, but until then, don’t get caught In their collusion ring because no one “ wins” except them.
After reading all the reviews here so, it makes no sense to me how a guy like this can continue to victimize. If you're the one who's truly crazy or causing whatever situation that could be damaging to the kids this is the guy that you want. After my situation I just could not rest. How could this guy not see the lies. I gave him evidence that directly contraindicated everything that my ex-wife accused me of. The false sexual allegations! I had videos of my children saying mommy hurt me where my child was bruised in her groin area in an attempt to make it look like I did something to her. A video people! And I have honestly like any normal human being been completely obsessed with getting the truth out. That my friend is exactly what you will endure if you are unfortunate enough to have this guy as your custody evaluator. So I now have a theory! You see conflict is what lines his pockets. Even when he finished his 80-page evaluation one of his recommendations which I'm learning is always his recommendation is another evaluation in a few years. If he can continue to keep these families in turmoil he lines his pockets. It makes Financial sense. So I dug a little deeper and speaking to people who really don't want to disclose too much, I learned that this guy is very political when it comes to the Maryland legal system. It was put to me that he helps to elect judges. I couldn't find any specifics but that made sense. Why would any legal system that cares about the public allowed someone with such negative ratings to continue to have such a powerful position when it comes to determining how families are going to be arranged? This man is in a great position. It was explained that he gets referred to the high-conflict custody cases where the families have high incomes. I could definitely go on and on. But trust every other review that you read. The only positive reviews are from attorneys I have work with him but no one who I've had this guy can't say anything good. His goal is to extract the most money that he can out of a case. And he tries to set himself up For recurring evaluation. And trust me making the decision that is most incorrect ensures that there will be continued conflict. The thing that angers me the most is that the children end up suffering. Even when there's a parent who clearly should not have decision-making or custody, he will make that decision as it benefits him the most. If given the opportunity to choose whether you have to use this guy be sure to object. Go with someone else!
Pay to play corruption used by lawyers in child custody. Do not sign anything. He will lie with psychobabble that will be used against you in court. How he lives with himself is unconscionable.
Read about the Thomas Valva case and realize Berman is part of a family court organization called the AFCC that pushes pseudoscience and equivocates on abuse. In what world is reporting abuse justification for taking custody? Yet, that's what Berman and his fellow AFCC "experts" do. What happened to the mom in the Valva case happed to me and so many other moms I know. These people are sick and they should be exposed.
Especially if your soon to be ex is disordered avoid Paul C. Berman. He misquotes you and puts words into your mouth. His reports are sloppy, full of left over template language that doesn't apply, e.g., using "child" instead of "children." He used the story from the disordered ex believing his lies, despite that he is a serial cheater with many marriages behind him and has abandoned children in the past. Berman told me Very Disturbing things that my disordered ex said about me and my parents insinuating incest. When I asked Berman about it the next week he refused to discuss it saying he had made an "administrative error." Berman's "error" was gross incompetence. Once the MMPI-2 results came back Berman refused to dx anyone. However he said about my ex Yes, a narcissist. I was being abused by my ex during the divorce and had a temporary restraining order during the custody evaluation, Berman mocked me to a friend who he called about the restraining order. "Do you really believe her?" he said to her. He called my psychologist and questioned her over and over about money suggesting I was lying to get more money. She told me it was unprofessional and she tried to set him straight. Berman aided my ex in abusing me further. He's in a position of power and no one reviews his work so he can write anything he wants. Then you'll be left to counter his "administrative errors" in court.
Berman, Rebecca Snyder, Patricia Cummings (see her reviews --atrocious), Kim Wells, Gina Santoro, Michelle Sarris, and several other AFCC members are all too be avoided. The AFCC is a "professional" organization that teaches it's members to pit parents against each other or to side with the abusive/disordered member for their financial gain and the gain of the attorneys who referred them. If there's child abuse or coercive control involved, they use a faulty concept called parental alienation to silence and discredit abuse victims. They withhold evidence of abuse, misstate what the children told them, minimalize abuse, and will even lie under oath. They claim to have the best interest of the children at heart, but how can that be when the parents' life saving and the childrens' college funds are in their pockets, the parents have been stuck in years of court battles, and the children end up in the hands of the abusive parent? What kind of person knowingly betrays abused children?
My children and I were victims of "Dr." Berman close to two decades ago. It sickens me that anyone is still allowing him to harm and steal from women, children, and men. Absolutely unbelievable and unconscionable that this man still gets to profit from causing life-long harm to others. #KIDSstillsuffering
Avoid at all costs. Doesn’t listen, mean to children, not very intelligent. Actually made things worse for our family.
My ex-husband was an alcoholic and addict, cheated on me many times and was an emotionally abusive. But my ex is a lawyer, smooth talker and is charming, plus he wrote the checks to Dr. Berman. They hit it off right away, and Dr. Berman bought everything he said. He said I was lazy, superficial, only cared about my friends and that I was abusive to the kids. I was an at-home mom of four kids for 15 years. I had no nannies or babysitters. I volunteer in school, Sunday School, our church, the community...but it was clear from the beginning that Dr. Berman's loved my ex and didn't like me at all. Dr. Berman has a reputation as a mom and woman-hater for a reason. He almost always rules in favor of dads...just read about him online. He talked down to me the way men of his generation often do to women. He gave my ex more in-office visits. He'd bring up things my husband said and pressure me to give him an answer he was seeking, even if it wasn't the truth. He rudely questioned why I was at home with the kids instead of working like "most moms do". (!!!). He even rolled his eyes when I talked about how my husband's cheating affected me. When he came for my home visit, he wasn't even paying attention. It was like his mind was made up no matter what he saw. It was an awful experience that I wouldn't wish on anyone. Dr. Berman said he spoke to our friends, the kid's teachers, our marraige counselor and many others. But he actually never spoke to any of the teachers. And what he reported our friends saying was incorrect. Same with my therapist and our marraige counselor. They testified in court to tell the truth about what actually happened and what they saw and showed Berman for the lazy fraud he is. Thank God my judge was one of the ones on the circuit who knows the deal about Berman (there are many). He saw the truth, and I got primary physical and legal, even though Berman said my ex should have it. You'd be better to stick with a court-appointed evaluator if you can. Berman is a joke and a jerk.
Stay Away!!!! NEVER sign consent for this man or any of his cronies to make decisions for your child/ren. You’ll likely regret this forever if you do. Years later. It is able to be proven how wrong he was and how he missed the mark; many marks. KNOW: It will take years to u die the damage poor decisions of his will cause. We are talking about your children. This group is part of the clan of family law thieves who refer you to their colleague, who receive referrals from their colleagues, and the wheels go round and round. Keto your kids away from this mafia.
Believe the other reviews. They are spot on. He not only doesnt care about the truth, but also writes MAJOR misquotes and conclusions that will damage your case. The less you say the better. Paint yourself perfect. He will know you did in his psych eval... But you will do better. Also expect he will recommend a later reevaluation. You'll pay for that! Gotta keep the money flowing!!! He will send you all over the state to get the additional "help" you need. And the recommendations will be indefinate. Imagine if you were recommended to have eating disorder therapy indefinitely to maintain custody even if you don't actually have that disorder! If you can have him dismissed for another evaluator, do it, without hesitation. Conversely his psychiatric evaluation will be pretty close and expose who you are, like it or not. Be ready to look in the mirror. I only wish he would come down of the high horse and realize he can make mistakes affecting the children. He will lead you to say something bad or that will hurt you. For instance if you never hit your kid he will keep asking you over and over until you give him something. He won't move on. The problem is, if you actually didnt hit your kid, his authority and what he's deciding will scare you into giving him SOMETHING. He will bias you like by saying "I'm worried your spouse wants to have the house". You will then focus on this new info when he really doesn't plan on helping you keep it. Those were made-up examples. Just know no matter how honest you are.. you're screwed. He's not your friend. See past the pleasant demeanor. Remain calm, answer his questions with no extra detail. If the truth is even slightly bad, consider your strategy. I can't tell you if he detects lies well because I never lied to him. My spouse did and he did much better than I with the outcome. Hopefully you can get out of using him. Cheers
If you left an abusive relationship and you have the misfortune to have Paul Berman appointed by the court in various capacities (custody evaluator, psych evaluator, reunification therapist --he wears many hats) be very careful what you say to him. He does not care about the truth. He will prolong the conflict for money and amusement (supply), recommend more of his AFCC friends get involved to "help", and ultimately twist whatever you say, even if he has to lie under oath, to hand your children to the abuser. Other AFCC "friends" who I hear are part of this back scratching scheme: Paul's wife, Aileen Killen, Gina Santoro, Michele Sarris, and over in Virginia, Ed Farber and Bill Zuckerman. Organizations like the AFCC "educate" judges, attorneys and social workers to dismiss abuse, to assume the accusers are lying, to believe that "parental alienation" is valid science (it has been repeatedly rejected by the APA), and that abused children still love and want to be with the abusive parent, which is just not true. Trauma bonding is not love or healthy. The AFCC and people like Paul Berman have turned the tragedy of divorce into a billion dollar industry at the expense of children. Berman has had many complaints against him over the years, but he's able to successfully deflect them by destroying his victims and making them look crazy and not credible. He will encourage you to trust and open up to him and then turn everything you say against you. Don't let him or any of his sick friends manipulate or provoke you. Learn to play the game. Stay calm and pleasant, say very little and have as little interaction with them as possible. You can talk about the abuse and your fears and concerns with people you know you can trust. AFCC members are not those people. That way, when one of them testifies that you are an alienator (which they are going to do regardless of the evidence) or recommends your abuser get full custody, they'll have less of a leg to stand on.
I'm in a high conflict custody case. Paul Berman and the usual suspects keep getting referred for various roles from reunification therapist to parent coordinators. Despite decades in the field, none of these people have establish reviews, good or bad. There's just nothing on them except a sprinkling of concerning reviews like the previous post and attempts to leave reviews get blocked. Anyone interested in sharing stories, please contact me at s t o p t h e r a p y a b u s e @ g m a i l . c o m
If you think your children's other parent is disordered don't go to Dr. Paul Berman. He was not troubled by the other parent's lying, bragging, abandonment of children from previous marriages, pattern of abusing women. Berman's report was sloppy and filled with errors and details either left over from other reports or template wording. He was dismissive of the abuse I suffered and was not interested in the proof of the lies and serial infidelities. He doesn't seem to understand the connection of the pattern of behavior of serial infidelity and how abuse is always part of it; lying, gaslighting, stealing. Or he doesn't care. Stay clear of him. He claimed I said things that I never did. He read a quote several times that he said the other parent said that anyone would consider Extremely Disturbing but at a later appointment Berman said he (Berman) made an error and was dismissive about it. He dismissed an unsolicited letter about the other parent that was very disparaging of their lack of parenting. Berman questioned if I was responsible for influencing the unsolicited letter, so he wrote his thoughts on the letter and sent a copy with his note to opposing counsel. He was dismissive of me being diagnosed with PTSD from the abuse, judged me as being tense. He was very focused when speaking to my psychologist to get her to admit I was "exaggerating to get more money." She had to tell him several times that I was not focused on money and that she was trying to get me to focus on it. I walked away with zero alimony and zero child support. Anyone who has been through a divorce with a sociopath knows you just want to get as far away as possible, money is not something you can focus on when you're scared. Stay away from Dr. Berman.
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