I am not the type of person who usually writes reviews, but I feel compelled to share my story of how my pregnancy and birth experience was absolutely destroyed by this woman who calls herself a â??doctorâ??. I agree with many of the other reviews on Dr. Graham that she is cold, disconnected, makes you feel stupid for asking questions, does not listen, has no sympathy or empathy, practices medicine for the love of money (not to care for her patients) and does not spend enough time with her patients (in my case, not enough time to discover a serious problem with my baby that could have been detected early on if she had only been a little more thorough and actually had concern for the women and babies sheâ??s caring for). Furthermore, she failed to effectively treat me once she was informed of the problem, which I later discovered could have led to my babyâ??s death. Not only would I recommend that people stay away from Dr. Graham because of her rudeness and lack of empathy, but I also… think that her inability to spend enough time with her patients, her lack of care for her patients and babies, and her blindness by money, is potentially putting patients and their babies in danger.
Before getting into the main horror story of how Dr. Graham traumatized me and family (which took place during my second pregnancy), I would like to first describe how she negatively affected my first pregnancy. When I first came to Dr. Graham for my first pregnancy, I noticed that she seemed cold and disconnected. But I didnâ??t know of any other obstetricians, and I couldnâ??t imagine that anything would be wrong with my baby, so all I needed was a competent doctor, right? WRONG. Unfortunately, my first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. Dr. Graham gave me an ultrasound in her clinic when I was 11 weeks along. She told me that my baby was dead. She apologized but did not seem to be very sympathetic. She asked me if I wanted to have a D & C (3-days later!) to remove the baby, or take some medicine that would â??flushâ?? it out. I told her that I wanted to take the medicine and go through this heartbreaking process in the comfort of my own home with my family. She abruptly left the room and told me that her nurse, Helen, would be in touch. Helen called me a little while later and told me that the medicine had been called into my pharmacy. Helen didnâ??t explain the process to me or tell me what to expect. I felt like I had to pry questions out of her in order to get the information I needed to safely and basically give myself an abortion! Furthermore, once the horrible process was over, no one from the office called me to make sure everything went okay, or to tell me what I was supposed to do next. I had to call them to get all of my aftercare instructions. All in all, this was one of the most traumatic experiences of my life (until my next pregnancy) and I had absolutely no support from Dr. Graham or her staff. You would think that of all people, an OB and her staff would know that a miscarriage is one of the worst experiences that a woman can go through. But they see it all the time. Itâ??s routine for them and they could care less that it is NOT routine for their patients. But this isnâ??t the worst of it.
A couple months later, I got pregnant again. Something I will regret for the rest of my life is that I decided to ignore my gut and I went back to Dr. Graham. At first, this pregnancy seemed to progress smoothly. However, I was a nervous wreck the whole time because of the trauma of my miscarriage. My anxiety caused me to have a lot of questions when I saw Dr. Graham, and she was clearly annoyed by my need for answers and reassurance. She made me feel stupid for asking basic questions, and she had the nerve to ask me (with a tone of annoyance) why I seemed so nervous about this pregnancy. Seriously!!?? Why do you think!! Maybe because I just had a miscarriage??!! Whereâ??s your compassion woman??
At around 22 weeks, I started to feel that something wasnâ??t right with my baby. It seemed like he didnâ??t move very much and I always felt like I wasnâ??t as big as I should be. Even though I expressed these concerns to Dr. Graham at every appointment, she never once measured my belly and, as usual, seemed very annoyed by my concerns and questions. As my pregnancy progressed, I couldnâ??t get rid of this sinking feeling that something was wrong with my baby. At my 30 week check-up, I expressed again that something wasnâ??t right. As usual she tried to blow me off and make me feel stupid. But I wasnâ??t having it this time. This was my baby and I knew something was wrong and I was not going to let her intimidate me anymore. I kept pressing her until she finally sent me to a radiologist she works with, Dr. Kevin Case, to get an ultrasound. Sure enough, something was VERY wrong, and had been for a while. My baby was incredibly small. He was in the 1st percentile of growth and his growth was slowing every week of my pregnancy. I have to wonder, if Dr. Graham had ever taken the time to do the very basic task of measuring my belly, could this have been discovered earlier?? Most likely.
To my horror, Dr. Case diagnosed my baby with either one of two things. He said there was a 70% chance that my baby had dwarfism and a 30% chance that he had Intrauterine Growth Restriction (IUGR). He made this diagnosis during my ultrasound, without taking the time to review his material or consult with any other doctors. As I look back on this, it seems highly unethical that Dr. Case made such a hasty diagnosis without considering all of the evidence. Either way, Dr. Graham was immediately informed of the shocking size of my baby, and she did nothing. She did not call me, she did not offer any advice or support, she did not give me a plan of action, and she did not take the time to look at the ultrasound report herself to form
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